The Boston Girl

According to the Talmud, if a funeral procession and a wedding procession cross paths, the wedding party goes first. Life is more important than death.

As far as I can tell, common sense hasn’t been in fashion for a long time.

being an artist is more than a job or a skill; it’s a way of walking through the world.

But I belong to that landscape now, to the sky and the mountains. I wouldn’t be happy anywhere else.

Don’t let anyone tell you things aren’t better than they used to be.

Even a broken clock is right twice every day.

Having all those women together in one place was like looking through a photo album of my life: from when I was a baby to the Saturday Club to Rockport Lodge to working at the newspaper to meeting Aaron.

How did I get to be the woman I am today?” It started in that library, in the reading club. That’s where I started to be my own person.

I always felt I understood myself better after we spent time together. And the way she laughed at my wisecracks and thanked me for my opinions made me think maybe I was as smart and funny as she said i was.

If you treat every question like you've never heard it before, your students feel like you respect them and everyone learns a lot more. Including the teacher.

If you treat every question like you’ve never heard it before, your students feel like you respect them and everyone learns a lot more. Including the teacher.

I’m still embarrassed and mad at myself. But after seventy years, I also feel sorry for the girl I used to be. She was awfully hard on herself.

It’s a good thing babies don’t give you a lot of time to think. You fall in love with them and when you realize how much they love you back, life is very simple.

It took me until I was almost forty before I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up.

It was one of those perfect fall days when the air is cool enough to wake you up but the sun is also kissing your face.

My world got very small, the way it always does when someone in your family is sick.

No girl is ever happy with her own hair, is she?

She approved. “A girl should always have her own money so she’s never beholden to anyone.” I said that was very modern of her, but she didn’t think so. “As far as I can tell, common sense hasn’t been in fashion for a long time.

She said, “Hiking is the same thing as walking, only hotter and twice as far as you want to go. But usually, you’re glad you went.

Sometimes friends grow apart. You tell each other everything and you’re sure this is a person you’ll know the rest of your life but then she stops writing or calling, or you realize she’s really not so nice, or she turns into a right-winger.

Sometimes friends grow apart. You tell each other everything and you’re sure this is a person you’ll know the rest of your life but then she stops writing or calling, or you realize she’s really not so nice, or she turns into a right-winger. Remember your friend Suzie? But sometimes, it doesn’t matter how far apart you live or how little you talk—it’s still there. That was Filomena and me.

They all agreed that things were better in the old days. Some of them were sad about it and some were bitter, but it was always, 'Nothing is as good as it used to be.' I swore I would never talk like that and you know what? Now that I'm an old lady myself, I think that most things are better than they used to be. Look at the computers. Look at your sister, the cardiologist, and you, graduating from Harvard. Don't talk to me about the good old days. What was so good?

When a shy person smiles, it's like the sun coming out.

When a shy person smiles, it’s like the sun coming out.

When I look at my eighty-five-year-old face in the mirror today, I think, “You’re never going to look better than you do today, honey, so smile.

When I look at my eighty-five-year-old face in the mirror today, I think, “You’re never going to look better than you do today, honey, so smile.” Whoever said a smile is the best face-lift was one smart woman.

Why is it you get more tired from sitting and doing nothing than from running around doing too much?

You know, Ava, it’s good to be smart, but kindness is more important.

You know, Ava, it’s good to be smart, but kindness is more important. Oh dear, another old-lady chestnut to stitch on a sampler. Or maybe one of those cute little throw pillows.

You should always be kind to people, Ava. You never know what sorrows they’re carrying around.